Many parents go into the process of starting a family with the aim of having more than one child. For others, it’s a slower realisation that baby number 2 would make the family feel more complete. Is there ever a ‘right’ time to start trying for a second child?
How Soon is Too Soon?
Some moms like the idea of spacing pregnancies close together. This can give you a nice small age gap between children’s, possibly leading to a closer sibling bond, and allows you to get the difficult sleepless years over with more quickly. However, Researchers claim that the ideal gap between pregnancies is around 18 to 23 months. Anything closer together won’t give your body the time it needs to recover from childbirth and prepare itself for the trials of pregnancy.
Can You Afford Another Baby?
For many parents, finances are a major factor in the decision to bring a new child into their family. A second child brings a whole new set of challenges financially. Keep in mind the cost of childcare, food, diapers and education and assess whether or not you can budget for a new family member.
Are You Emotionally Prepared?
It’s no secret that parenting is hard work. Consider whether you and your partner are ready for the challenges that another child could bring into your lives, both individually and in terms of your marriage.
Ignore The Pressure
Some parents experience a certain amount of pressure from extended family and friends to have another baby soon after the birth of their fist child. Focus on what feels right for you and your family and politely remind others to mind their own business.
Prepare Your Child
If you do decide to go ahead and start trying for a second baby, make sure that your older child feels included and understood along the way. Help them get excited for the new arrival by talking about the new baby with them and including them in the preparation process.